You know the scenario. Kid A does something to Kid B. Kid B retaliates with words or fists. You come running in to referee. You try to sort out the mess and at the end say, “Now, tell each other that you’re sorry.” Those words are usually followed by a squeaky, small, and insincere chorus of “sorry.” The word has been said, but a real apology hasn’t been made. This doesn’t just happen with kids either. We adults often fail in our apologies just like the kids. Watch my #FamilyFriday to learn how to really apologize.
The Best Way to Ruin an Apology...
Part of learning to be a problem-solver is learning to be a peace-maker. Owning and admitting our wrong in any situation is necessary to bringing a conflict to an appropriate resolution. Most of us ruin our apologies with a few simple words. Watch my video to learn the best way to ruin an apology…and how we can avoid this common problem. #FamilyFriday
Help for Raising Resilient Kids
Raising resilient kids means raising problem-solving kids. Watch the video to learn about strategies to help your kids learn how to deal with various problems and difficulties that come up on every life. #FamilyFriday
Parenting is Not about Perpetual Comfort
Sometimes we have to resist the urge to protect our kids in order to pursue the higher goal of preparing them for the difficulties of life. This #FamilyFriday will help you discern the balance between protection and preparation and how we can work towards using hardship as a means to the formation of moral character and Christlikeness.
On the Matter of Time and Patience
"Are we there yet?!" I'm sure you have heard your kids or grandkids say that question (among many other impatient statements as well). I got to thinking about why time seems so long to kids and so short as you grow older. Check out my #FamilyFriday on this topic to hear my theory and how that relates to teaching patience to our children and our pursuit of it as well.
More Tips for Family Devotions
I've posted previous about how to establish a pattern for family devotions as part of an overall approach to discipling your kids. This time, I want to give you a few more particulars and recommendations on resources as you put that into play in your family life.
Do More Than Love Your Kids
We often have this idea that, as long as I love my kids, they will turn out alright. But because our kids have a deeper spiritual problem—a heart problem—they will need more than parental love. They will need salvation (as we all do!). So, in order to truly parent our kids, we must do what is necessary for their spiritual awakening and maturity. Do more than love your kids...read the Bible and pray with them.
Take Your Kids to Church...Especially When You Don't Feel Like It
Getting up and making it to church on time with your family (especially if you have young kids) might just be the definition of cruel and unusual punishment. It’s really hard to do the church thing as a family. And because it’s so hard, the temptations to just stay home seem so very powerful. But hear this today: Take your kids to church…especially when you don’t feel like.
Commit to All-Day Discipleship
The Scripture is quite clear that one of our chief responsibilities as parents is the spiritual education and discipleship of our children. The gravity of this task is sometimes overwhelming, but it is also a distinct privilege that pays immense dividends if we take it seriously and carefully. We often fall into one of two mistakes when discipling our kids…
More Chaos than Control
Your Family and Technology
I recently did a 3-part Facebook Live series on Your Family and Technology. A brief summary is provided before each video below. If you are trying to navigate this always changing landscape of technology with your children, you might benefit from watching these Family Friday segments. In part one, I wanted to provide a biblical framework from which to think about technology and how we might learn to redeem technology rather than be ruled by it. In part two, I tried to educate parents on some of the possibilities and problems of technology and give some action steps for how we can maximize the possibilities while guarding agains the problems. Finally, in part three, I provided some introduction on various tools and apps that can make technology safer and more helpful in the home.
Helping Kids through Grief and Loss
Death is no respecter of persons. We learn this painful lesson as we experience life and become acquainted with the frailty of our own lives and those arounds us. In December, our church experienced the loss of a dear man who had teenage children. This got me to thinking about how we could help children as they face loss and grief. Here are some key ideas whether you yourself are working through the loss of a loved one or are trying to help someone else who is.
"No" Is a Loving Word
Saying “No” is hard for us because we live in a “Yes” culture. But our kids need us to say “No” because “No” is ultimately a loving word. I hope that you'll take a few minutes to watch my #FamilyFriday on this topic. Make sure to like the First Baptist Bonham Facebook page to get more content like this! Or return here each week where I'll also post the video.
Here a couple of great articles that I used in preparation for this video:
You Are NOT Your Child's Savior...
You’re NOT your child’s savior. The temptation to rescue our children from the pains of this life often feels overwhelming. Take a moment to view my third #FamilyFriday discussion.
Here are two great articles that I used in preparation for this video:
The Majesty of the Mundane
We often feel the pressure to believe that the grander a gesture the more positive its impact on our family and relationships. Take a moment to watch my video to learn about the majesty of the mundane activities of life and how important they are to building strong families. #FamilyFriday